How do I spend NYE? Typically, I hide in my house and avoid contact with people. Oliver is with his dad tonight, so I took the tree down and watched some Criminal Minds.
So, since I'm not a NYE person, it should go without saying that I'm not a resolution person. Really, I can't recall the last time I made resolutions on NYE, or any other time. It's not like I don't set goals...I just don't make resolutions. There was some study done on resolutions made on NYE, and like...all of them were broken. Someone said something about them being a sure-fire way of setting yourself up for failure. For the most part, that's always how I've seen them. Thing is, I've done plenty of failing all on my own, without the aid of resolutions. Perhaps for someone like myself resolutions aren't destined for failure. And in any case, what could it hurt?
So here goes....my first list of resolutions in a very long time:
1. Let go. Seriously. I've spent the better part of the last year wasting time and emotion on a person who isn't the least bit deserving of my attention. My subconscious may do as it pleases...I have no control over it...but the rest of me is well within my control. I'm not even saying that I'll remove this person from my life. I'm just not going to give a damn anymore. It's not worth the ups and downs. And, at the same time, I need to be more real in the relationships I have that matter...I need to let people in... allow people to know me, not just about me. I also need to treat people more as people and less as character studies or psychological research projects. And one more thing in this area...be fucking honest. So many issues in the last few months could have been cleared up if I'd just said exactly what I was thinking or asked the things that would have cleared things up.
2. Finish something. I'm not even concerned about WHAT I finish at this point...just that I FINISH something. Anything. Really. I have 4 projects in the works right now, all in various stages...and many more ideas that are just hanging around waiting to sidetrack me at any moment. I look at my stacks of note cards and can just see myself turning into my father. One of the first arguments I ever heard he and my mother have had to do with a 3-legged deer painting. My mom was furious that my dad had unfinished paintings everywhere...the most annoying of which was a 3-legged deer. My books are just like that damn deer. I need to stop this before it gets any worse.
3. Read 50 books. I have more than 50 that I haven't read, so this shouldn't be a challenge... :)
4. Be proactive about my health. The last couple months have kind of sucked, and I'm just getting tired of feeling awful all the time. So, that'll end. I shouldn't be so scared of docs, but...I am. I just don't like 'em...and I don't like the thought of medical testing or procedures of any kind, or medication.
5. Less time on Facebook. This one should be fairly self-explanatory.
And one that's not just for me...
6. Teach Oliver some basic little kid skills...like how to make himself one meal, how to put away his clothes, how to sort the laundry... get him better at phonics...he's so good already, but I'd really like it if he could do some basic reading by the end of the year.
There's that. I could probably have added some other things to that, but....I'm new to this. Six seems like a good place to start. Wonder if I'll remember having written this in a year so that I can check my progress. Someone want to remind me in a year??